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Make a Date… With Yourself

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Hello Yinster, I hope you have had an awesome week so far.

So from last week’s tip, did you spend the first 5 minutes of every day focusing on you and only you? If so I’m curious, did it change your mindset for the day? What difference about yourself do you notice? 

Are you ready to hear this week’s self care tip? I’m super excited to share it with you. 

Date yourself! 

Yes I’m serious, I mean go all out. Think about what a perfect date looks like to you. Now Pick a date and time, mark it on your calendar. Buy yourself a nice outfit. Pull out all the stops.

How many times in your life have you gone through this experience where you’re putting your best self out there to try and find love from someone else?  

Guess what, it’s time to find love for yourself.

:Loving yourself will help you build self-confidence, self worth, and over all you will feel more positive. When you learn to love yourself, self care will come easier.

I can not wait to hear how your first date goes 😘.

💜- Heather S. Black 

     ” Self Care is a super power everyone can have”                    heather@modernyinster.com

The Critical First 5 Minutes of Your Day

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How often do we hit the ground running in the morning?  We’re in “Go Mode”.   

We’re already focusing on the tasks ahead. 

Why is it that we often allow our to-do list to come before our own well-being? Let’s change that! 

This weekend, I challenge you to wake up and spend the first 5 minutes to ask yourself…

  • How am I feeling?
  • What do I need today? 
  • What do I want from today?

Sound too simple to be true?  Well sometimes simple is not easy!  Place a sticky note by your bed every morning so you know remember this!  It takes repetitive practice. 

Remember small steps Rome wasn’t built in a day 😉.

                   💜- Heather S. Black

                                             “Self Care is a super power everyone can have.”

A Little about me!

Hello, I’m Heather Black I’m the newest addition to the Modern Yinster Team and I’m thrilled to get to know you! 

Erika has asked me to help you close out your week by setting you up for Self Care on the weekend.  Perhaps it’s the self care you missed during the week because of a full schedule.  

We got you covered. 

Creating self care routines and rituals is my expertise!  Let’s see what simple behaviors we can change together.

YOU Are in Control

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Happy ‘I am in Control’ Day!  I’m sending you a quick message of encouragement and empowerment!

When we live life knowing we are in control, we are putting our crowns back on our head, standing tall and stepping into our power.

You are so very powerful!

 

How to Build Positivity Resilience

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A positive mindset seems like a pony ride sometimes.  You know, the carousel ride. We have our ups and downs and around and arounds.

Sometimes we even fall off the horse, and that is okay!

Maurey: “So what do we do when we fall off the horse?”
Zoolander: ” I don’t know Maurey, I’m not a gymnast!”

Ha!  It doesn’t matter if you’ve seen that scene in Zoolander before, we all know the answer… we get back on!  That is building resilience!

Our brains are hardwired from birth to lean towards the negative, BUT we can retrain or rewire our brain with intentional exercises.

Here’s a strategy or exercise I use for myself, clients and even my kiddos to pivot towards the positive aspects around any situation!

In any situation that provokes negative thoughts or heavy emotions, Ask yourself, “What is the opportunity right now?” “How can I take advantage of this situation and make something good of it?”

 

This helps shift your mindset from negative to positive.  You move from focusing on what you don’t have to what you have available to you.

Opportunities surround you, every moment of every day! Get intentional about looking for them. Like a game of hide and seek!

I AM STATEMENTS:
“I AM SURROUNDED BY OPPORTUNITY.
“I AM OPEN TO EXPLORING WHAT IS AVAILABLE TO ME. “

Here are some examples:

  • When my Dad was in an accident 15 years ago and we didn’t know if he was going to life or die, we had the opportunity to find joy in the little things.
  • What if your weight loss goals are not going as fast as you would like.  Take the opportunity to turn around and look back to see how far you’ve come!
  • Any personal or professional relationships not so hot right now?  That’s a great opportunity for you to discover some hidden limiting beliefs!

I hope your week is plentiful with opportunities both big and tiny! Both are equally important.

Positively Resilient,
Erika
Forward to a Friend Forward to a Frien

Tough Love Concerning Change

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The power to change someone is an illusion. If you desire to change someone you may find yourself in a constant state of struggle, resistance or mental chaos.

Our real power is to change ourselves.

Years ago I stopped watching news every day. It was getting me down and something had to change. So I changed a habit.

I distanced myself from people, places and things that didn’t help me get to where I want to be tomorrow. I changed my surroundings.

The secrete sauce to having the biggest impact outward is to work inward. Be true to your beliefs by creating alignment with all thoughts and actions.

“I can not change anyone so I choose to change myself.

I acknowledge this and take full responsibility for where I am today.

My actions will inspire someone else to be the change they seek. “

Tough Love comes with love from the heart but may be a little sharp.

So… I say this from a place of love, perhaps a bit of tough love: It’s not them… it’s you.

If you blame them for making you feel a certain way then you gave them some of your power.

That can be a tough pill to swallow. When we shine that light on ourselves, it can be scary what we might pull out from the dark.

But, when we cultivate this we see things differently. Our heart softens, we become more compassionate, more open to change, giving and forgiving.

When develop a positive relationship with ourselves and our success in business, leadership and life is a product of that relationship.

When develop a negative relationship with ourselves and our success in business, leadership and life is a product of that relationship.

It starts with ONE (you). From there, it ripples to ALL.