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How to Build Positivity Resilience

March 29, 2021 by Romack Leave a Comment

A positive mindset seems like a pony ride sometimes.  You know, the carousel ride. We have our ups and downs and around and arounds.

Sometimes we even fall off the horse, and that is okay!

Maurey: “So what do we do when we fall off the horse?”
Zoolander: ” I don’t know Maurey, I’m not a gymnast!”

Ha!  It doesn’t matter if you’ve seen that scene in Zoolander before, we all know the answer… we get back on!  That is building resilience!

Our brains are hardwired from birth to lean towards the negative, BUT we can retrain or rewire our brain with intentional exercises.

Here’s a strategy or exercise I use for myself, clients and even my kiddos to pivot towards the positive aspects around any situation!

In any situation that provokes negative thoughts or heavy emotions, Ask yourself, “What is the opportunity right now?” “How can I take advantage of this situation and make something good of it?”

 

This helps shift your mindset from negative to positive.  You move from focusing on what you don’t have to what you have available to you.

Opportunities surround you, every moment of every day! Get intentional about looking for them. Like a game of hide and seek!

I AM STATEMENTS:
“I AM SURROUNDED BY OPPORTUNITY.
“I AM OPEN TO EXPLORING WHAT IS AVAILABLE TO ME. “

Here are some examples:

  • When my Dad was in an accident 15 years ago and we didn’t know if he was going to life or die, we had the opportunity to find joy in the little things.
  • What if your weight loss goals are not going as fast as you would like.  Take the opportunity to turn around and look back to see how far you’ve come!
  • Any personal or professional relationships not so hot right now?  That’s a great opportunity for you to discover some hidden limiting beliefs!

I hope your week is plentiful with opportunities both big and tiny! Both are equally important.

Positively Resilient,
Erika

Forward to a Friend Forward to a Frien

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August Newsletter

August 20, 2020 by Romack Leave a Comment

“You will get what you focus on, so focus on what you want!”

I love that quote above.  A simple reminder to stay the course.  But also with this reminder, I want you to give yourself permission to WANT something.  What is it that you want?  You’re not being selfish, I promise.  Go on… make a list of what you want!

This is the month to set intentions for your goals.  It’s a great month to create agreements with yourself.  Agreements with yourself that allow you walk forward with a decided heart.  So much so as if you have already achieved your goals and received what you want.

    BEWARE of traps!

A common trap is to get discouraged and lose focus because you don’t see forward movement.  The trap is… you are ALWAYS moving forward even when the work is not glamourous.

So this month and through the end of the year is going to rock.  Imma tell you why… I have put together quite the schedule to deliver tools to you that helps you the ditch the overwhelm and keep focus.

Here is a brief outline of events planned for you!  It’s pretty darn stellar as I have also partnered with Sawubona Sister Gatherings.  This is a place for women to support each other in all of our individual walk in personal and spiritual growth.  I will be sending you more info about this over the next month!

Sunday, Aug. 30th : 5 Factors of Focus an Interactive Webinar.  Take Action with Clarity and Purpose
Sept 19th – 20th: Be-YOU-ti-FULL Unique Virtual Retreat
Sept 21 – Oct 5th – Grand Opening for our Modern Yinster VIP Membership and Accountability Program (celebrate with me!)
September: Release of the Modern Yinster Focus Planner!
Nov. 1-5: Flexibility Challenge (if you can’t wait, sign up HERE and you will have immediate access!)
December: Absolutely no events, focus on fully supporting our membership through the end of the year challenges and 2021 transition.

Registration for our VIP Membership and Accountability is always open!

NOW is the time to buckle up, use the resources in our group to work out any kinks physically, emotionally and professionally so you stay healthy mind, body and soul.  

www.modernyinster.com/vip-membership

Farewell for now!  I know you are a busy lady so I’m going to let ya go!

Love you,
Erika

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The ‘Ugly Cry’ is More Healing Than You May Know

January 2, 2020 by yinster Leave a Comment

I had a magical “ugly cry”. It wasn’t pretty but the outcome was beautiful.  The end of the year is always hard. It’s a blend of happy and sad. I am floating on a cloud because this is that time of year when my children were born and I clearly remember the excitement of the anticipation of adding to our family and the current excitement of birthday celebrations. 

This is the time of year of family togetherness, games, food and merry drinks. The sad part comes in because this is when my Dad’s 4 wheeler malfunctioned, flipped multiple times then threw him 70 feet to land head first on concrete. He sustained uncountable injuries but the one that keeps his cognition equal to a two year olds is the Traumatic Brain Injury. 

I’ve felt stifled the last few days and I knew it was because of this time of year and the stagnation in my heart.  I knew rolling out my mat and practicing Yin Yoga would help. While in a pose, I thought of everyone in my life whom I loved and I sent them love.  

Then, I thought of Dad. And like a freight train out of nowhere, I burst into uncontrollable sobs. Let the Ugly Cry Therapy Commence.  No ugly cry is complete without slobber and a puddle of salty tears.  

I’ve ALWAYS looked at the positive in his accident.  I’m thankful for the accident bringing us together as a family.  I’m thankful of the strength it has given us to figure it out. I’m thankful for the faith it’s given us to know that what ever comes our way, it’s going to be okay.

‘But what I haven’t done is addressed my hate.  After all, hate is a bad word. I even teach my kids to express their aversion using other words than hate.  I’ve never explored hate because I’ve always gone to the positive. It’s my nature. It is my strength. But my strength has bullied my real feeling on the matter.  

I allowed my self to pivot towards my hate.  Not mask it with my natural positivity. So when the hate was the first thing I felt in my ugly cry, I leaned into it.  

<insert Ugly Cry visual here>

I HATE that this happened to him!

I HATE my Mom has to live without a partner!

I HATE that My Dad’s cognition level keeps him always dependent on someone!

I HATE that my little Brother had to grow up without a Father!

I HATE that my children don’t know this amazing man before his accident!

I HATE HATE HATE HATE that this is the way it is!

  1. HATE. THIS.

Now that felt good.  I am okay with my hate.  I am at peace with this feeling.  

<insert epiphany Ugly Cry here>

I was surprised at myself. I actually to experience the hate it instead of putting a warm cozy blanket of positivity around it.  I was ready to move on. That blanket had served me well for years until it didn’t. I accepted that I felt this way. I gave myself grace to feel that way. 

It was a beautiful pivot moment to really be in the experience the hate I had been neglecting and covering up with a blanket of positivity

Why do I tell you this?  I tell you this because I want you to be okay with pivoting into your experiences. It’s a beautiful liberation.

Gift yourself the gift of courage and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Open that door even though you don’t know where it leads because what’s on the other side is freedom of our know and unknown demons.  

Be sure to subscribe share this article and subscribe to her blog.  Also, you can find Erika’s private group on Facebook, Braving Vulnerability Together, HERE

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