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A positive mindset seems like a pony ride sometimes. You know, the carousel ride. We have our ups and downs and around and arounds.

Sometimes we even fall off the horse, and that is okay!

Maurey: “So what do we do when we fall off the horse?”
Zoolander: ” I don’t know Maurey, I’m not a gymnast!”

Ha! It doesn’t matter if you’ve seen that scene in Zoolander before, we all know the answer… we get back on! That is building resilience!

Our brains are hardwired from birth to lean towards the negative, BUT we can retrain or rewire our brain with intentional exercises.

Here’s a strategy or exercise I use for myself, clients and even my kiddos to pivot towards the positive aspects around any situation!

In any situation that provokes negative thoughts or heavy emotions, Ask yourself, “What is the opportunity right now?” “How can I take advantage of this situation and make something good of it?”

This helps shift your mindset from negative to positive. You move from focusing on what you don’t have to what you have available to you.

Opportunities surround you, every moment of every day! Get intentional about looking for them. Like a game of hide and seek!

I AM STATEMENTS:
“I AM SURROUNDED BY OPPORTUNITY.
“I AM OPEN TO EXPLORING WHAT IS AVAILABLE TO ME. “

Here are some examples:

When my Dad was in an accident 15 years ago and we didn’t know if he was going to life or die, we had the opportunity to find joy in the little things.
What if your weight loss goals are not going as fast as you would like. Take the opportunity to turn around and look back to see how far you’ve come!
Any personal or professional relationships not so hot right now? That’s a great opportunity for you to discover some hidden limiting beliefs!

I hope your week is plentiful with opportunities both big and tiny! Both are equally important.

Positively Resilient,
Erika

Forward to a Frien

The power to change someone is an illusion. If you desire to change someone you may find yourself in a constant state of struggle, resistance or mental chaos.

Our real power is to change ourselves.

Years ago I stopped watching news every day. It was getting me down and something had to change. So I changed a habit.

I distanced myself from people, places and things that didn’t help me get to where I want to be tomorrow. I changed my surroundings.

The secrete sauce to having the biggest impact outward is to work inward. Be true to your beliefs by creating alignment with all thoughts and actions.

“I can not change anyone so I choose to change myself.

I acknowledge this and take full responsibility for where I am today.

My actions will inspire someone else to be the change they seek. “

Tough Love comes with love from the heart but may be a little sharp.

So… I say this from a place of love, perhaps a bit of tough love: It’s not them… it’s you.

If you blame them for making you feel a certain way then you gave them some of your power.

That can be a tough pill to swallow. When we shine that light on ourselves, it can be scary what we might pull out from the dark.

But, when we cultivate this we see things differently. Our heart softens, we become more compassionate, more open to change, giving and forgiving.

When develop a positive relationship with ourselves and our success in business, leadership and life is a product of that relationship.

When develop a negative relationship with ourselves and our success in business, leadership and life is a product of that relationship.

It starts with ONE (you). From there, it ripples to ALL.

How to Build Positivity Resilience

Tough Love Concerning Change