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The Critical First 5 Minutes of Your Day

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How often do we hit the ground running in the morning?  We’re in “Go Mode”.   

We’re already focusing on the tasks ahead. 

Why is it that we often allow our to-do list to come before our own well-being? Let’s change that! 

This weekend, I challenge you to wake up and spend the first 5 minutes to ask yourself…

  • How am I feeling?
  • What do I need today? 
  • What do I want from today?

Sound too simple to be true?  Well sometimes simple is not easy!  Place a sticky note by your bed every morning so you know remember this!  It takes repetitive practice. 

Remember small steps Rome wasn’t built in a day 😉.

                   💜- Heather S. Black

                                             “Self Care is a super power everyone can have.”

A Little about me!

Hello, I’m Heather Black I’m the newest addition to the Modern Yinster Team and I’m thrilled to get to know you! 

Erika has asked me to help you close out your week by setting you up for Self Care on the weekend.  Perhaps it’s the self care you missed during the week because of a full schedule.  

We got you covered. 

Creating self care routines and rituals is my expertise!  Let’s see what simple behaviors we can change together.

Let Go and Flow

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Please enjoy this 50 minute Yin Practice.  Begin to feel at more peace in your mind and ease in your body within the fist few minutes!  This practice is from our virtual VIP Membership and Accountability Coaching private group.  For more information on how to receive customized Yoga you do on your own watch, click HERE

If this is the only thing you ever do with me, that’s okay!!  Please know that I truly appreciate you!

If you are interested in creating more flexibility and flow in your mind and body, enjoy a free 5 Day Flexibility Series!

Click HERE to receive immediate access!

 I acknowledge that I have either had a physical examination and have been given my physician’s permission to participate, or that I am participating in activity and/or use of equipment without the approval of my physician and do hereby assume all responsibility for my participation and activities, and utilization of equipment in my activities.

 

Day 4 – Understanding

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Welcome to Day 4 – Understanding Yourself Better

So why on earth would we want to understand ourselves better?

When we seek to better understand out thoughts, emotions and actions, we realize how much is conditioned by our surroundings. It’s not actually who we are.  It’s conditioning.

Once we understand that we have to opportunity to let them go.  And that’s liberating!  That’s change!

Self mastery is what we seek so we can continually evolve to be the best we can be for ourselves and others.

I’ve found a unique way to understand ourselves better is to take a RISK!  Taking a risk means that the outcome is unknown. For many of us, that fear of the ‘what can happen’ stops us from moving forward.

In order to better understand ourselves and self reflect, let’s take some risk and see what happens.

It can be a big or small risk.  It’s what you are comfortably uncomfortable with.  If a risk doesn’t present to you today, at least you are thinking about it.  You are still aware of it.  That is understanding yourself better in order to create more focus!

Did you miss the other days?  It’s all good… Here are the links to those blogs!

https://modernyinster.com/day-1-focus

https://modernyinster.com/day-2-off-set-distractions/

https://modernyinster.com/day-3-clarity/

Would you like more info on our vip memberhsip?

Why YES, Yes, I would! CLICK HERE

The ‘Ugly Cry’ is More Healing Than You May Know

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I had a magical “ugly cry”. It wasn’t pretty but the outcome was beautiful.  The end of the year is always hard. It’s a blend of happy and sad. I am floating on a cloud because this is that time of year when my children were born and I clearly remember the excitement of the anticipation of adding to our family and the current excitement of birthday celebrations. 

This is the time of year of family togetherness, games, food and merry drinks. The sad part comes in because this is when my Dad’s 4 wheeler malfunctioned, flipped multiple times then threw him 70 feet to land head first on concrete. He sustained uncountable injuries but the one that keeps his cognition equal to a two year olds is the Traumatic Brain Injury. 

I’ve felt stifled the last few days and I knew it was because of this time of year and the stagnation in my heart.  I knew rolling out my mat and practicing Yin Yoga would help. While in a pose, I thought of everyone in my life whom I loved and I sent them love.  

Then, I thought of Dad. And like a freight train out of nowhere, I burst into uncontrollable sobs. Let the Ugly Cry Therapy Commence.  No ugly cry is complete without slobber and a puddle of salty tears.  

I’ve ALWAYS looked at the positive in his accident.  I’m thankful for the accident bringing us together as a family.  I’m thankful of the strength it has given us to figure it out. I’m thankful for the faith it’s given us to know that what ever comes our way, it’s going to be okay.

‘But what I haven’t done is addressed my hate.  After all, hate is a bad word. I even teach my kids to express their aversion using other words than hate.  I’ve never explored hate because I’ve always gone to the positive. It’s my nature. It is my strength. But my strength has bullied my real feeling on the matter.  

I allowed my self to pivot towards my hate.  Not mask it with my natural positivity. So when the hate was the first thing I felt in my ugly cry, I leaned into it.  

<insert Ugly Cry visual here>

I HATE that this happened to him!

I HATE my Mom has to live without a partner!

I HATE that My Dad’s cognition level keeps him always dependent on someone!

I HATE that my little Brother had to grow up without a Father!

I HATE that my children don’t know this amazing man before his accident!

I HATE HATE HATE HATE that this is the way it is!

  1. HATE. THIS.

Now that felt good.  I am okay with my hate.  I am at peace with this feeling.  

<insert epiphany Ugly Cry here>

I was surprised at myself. I actually to experience the hate it instead of putting a warm cozy blanket of positivity around it.  I was ready to move on. That blanket had served me well for years until it didn’t. I accepted that I felt this way. I gave myself grace to feel that way. 

It was a beautiful pivot moment to really be in the experience the hate I had been neglecting and covering up with a blanket of positivity

Why do I tell you this?  I tell you this because I want you to be okay with pivoting into your experiences. It’s a beautiful liberation.

Gift yourself the gift of courage and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Open that door even though you don’t know where it leads because what’s on the other side is freedom of our know and unknown demons.  

Be sure to subscribe share this article and subscribe to her blog.  Also, you can find Erika’s private group on Facebook, Braving Vulnerability Together, HERE

The Simplicity Project – Step 3

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Step 3 

Consumption Kills Simplicity and Clarity

Consumption Kills Simplicity And creates attachments that hold us down and keep us from leaping forward!  Attachments are something we discuss more in my coaching program Clarity Above Chaos. For this project, please note that we have attachments to things, but most times those things are simply the mask fronting for the true attachment.  Is it a person, place, thought or emotion? 

This particular step is something you may not be ready for at this time.  If not, ask yourself why and then move on to step 4. Come back to this again when it has more value or relevance in your life! 

**** Pick a period of time. A day, a week, a month or a year. During this predetermined time, do not purchase anything you don’t NEED.  The simple awareness of not purchasing anything brings more simplicity into your life. You start to become hyper aware of other consumption patterns that can trigger stress, stagnation and complexity.****

Remember,  attachment is the result of consuming things. Let’s call this an exercise in awareness of what you actually need. I promise, we don’t need anymore attachments.  They create that reminder of what we don’t have or didn’t have before we bought it.  

I decided to go bold and do this for one year.  I’m 2 months into it and I have gotten so much out of this already.  I fell into the habit of shopping and consuming in excess.  If I were bored, I’d go buy a dress.  If I was so busy I couldn’t breathe, I buy a piece of jewelry. If I had a successful moment in my business, I’d get a manicure.  If I had a failure in my business, I’d go out to eat.  This was an ongoing pattern for years and I didn’t realize how attached to reward I was.  I was attached to distraction by shopping and my success with Modern Yinster showed this. 

Now, shopping or frivolous lunches are not an option.  I’ve gotten rid of my need for more stuff and opened a door to determination and discipline.  Now, instead of spending money, I make a lot more!

When I told my kids this they exclaimed, “yea!! because you shop a lot and we had to go with you.”  Ouch, but a good ouch.  They were noticing my unhealthy behaviors and this change benefited them because they no longer have to shop with me, but also, now they will learn that reward comes from within.  They will continue to see me flourish in my business and frankly, my new found drive and discipline is setting a passionate tone for when I am coaching my children through life.  

 If more comes along with this particular exercise, let’s chat.  This step affects everyone differently and most of my clients are surprised at the results.  

Is this something you are up to right now? Perhaps it is a step that you need to put on the back burner?  Timing is important but don’t wait for the perfect time to do this because there will never be a ‘perfect time.’  

A QUICK NOTE:

I’d love to continue to work with you on a deeper level.  If you like the idea of creating more simplicity in your life or digging deeper within your true self, let’s set up a call.  I’d love to hear more and introduce you to a program that shows you how to really study yourself to find truth beyond what you think you are capable of knowing.  

Erika

erika@modernyinster.com

www.modernyinster.com

Links to all the Steps!

STEP 1

https://modernyinster.com/thesimplicityprojectstep1/

STEP 2

https://modernyinster.com/thesimplicitychallengestep2/

STEP 3

https://modernyinster.com/thesimplicitychallengestep3/

STEP 4

https://modernyinster.com/thesimplicitychallengestep4/

STEP 5

https://modernyinster.com/thesimplicityprojectstep5/